Regarding the ideal Muslim wife, the Prophet (SAW) said:
“Shall I tell you the most precious thing a man can have? It is a righteous wife: when he looks at her he is pleased, when he tells her to do something she obeys, and when he is away she is faithful and loyal to him” [al-Hakim, who said it is sahih according to the conditions of al-Bukhari and Muslim]
SOME CHARACTERISTICS OF THE IDEAL MUSLIM WIFE
Brings happiness to her husband
Brings tranquility to her husband
Brings stability to her husband
Brings peace, comfort, and pleasure to her husband
She makes a cheerful , pleasant , and secure home
She must be faithful, trustworthy, and honest
She wants to raise successful, courageous, intelligent children
She may neither offend him nor hurt his feelings.
The Importance of a good wife to her husband (and of course vice versa) is Great to Allah (SWT). Nothing can illustrate the point better than the Qur’anic statement which describes the righteous people as those who pray:
“Rabba-na hab la-na min azwaji-na wa dhuriyyati-na qurrata a’yunin wa aj’al-na li al muttaqin imama”
“Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the joy and the comfort of our eyes, and guide us to be models of righteousness” (Qur’an 25:74)
Obligations of the wife: Husband’s rights
The main obligations of a wife is to contribute to the success and happiness of the marriage.
She needs to care about the comfort and well being of her husband
She does not deceive her husband purposly
She does not accept gifts without his approval; this is to avoid jealousy, suspicion, gossip, etc
The husbands possessions are her trust
She makes herself desirable and attractive to her husband
She should not deny herself to her husband, for the Qur’an speaks of them as comfort to eachother.
The Ideal Muslim BY : Dr. Muhammad Ali-al-Hashimi
Islam in Focus By: Hammudah ‘Abd al ‘Ati